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PSG Institute of Technology and Applied Research
Pass percentage of our students during "Apr/May 2021 - Anna University Online Examinations" is 100.00%   
Pathway to Success on 6th October 2016
As a part of wellness centre activity, Dr. Anuja .S. Panicker (Clinical psychologist) from PSG IMS&R addressed the faculty on the topic "Pathway to Success" on 6th October 2016 from 3.30 pm to 4.30 pm.

A pathway is a path or a route to or way of access to; way of reaching or achieving something

1. What are the typical interpretations of success by different groups of people?
The interpretation of success is different for different people. Success is generally defined as "achievement of something planned, desired or attempted."
  • Eg: Mother's guideline of success is to get up early, prepare food and send the student to college on time.
  • Eg: Student's guideline of success is to get good marks in exams and to be appreciated by the faculty.
2. What are the key aspects to reach the pathway of success?
I. Mental flexibility - the ability to handle different situations in different ways, especially to respond effectively to new, complex, and problematic situations. Sometimes one's mental inflexibilities are very strong to get stuck with one idea. Many people suffer due to their attitude.
The learning metaphor from the story of monkey and banana:
There is an interesting method that the trappers use to catch the monkey for the zoo. The trappers take a small cage out into the jungle and they place a bunch of bananas inside the cage and close it locking the bananas inside. When a monkey spots the bananas, it will reach through the narrow rungs of the cage and grab the bananas but the monkey will not be able to get it out however hard he tries as the monkey cannot pull his hand through the rungs. While hanging on to the bananas the monkey would not let go of the banana even on seeing a trapper. It is then very easy for the trappers to catch the monkey.

The inference from the story,
  • People fixed with certain ideas and certain things won't move to the next level.
  • Be ready to let go our own ideas and concepts.
  • People have to learn to "let go their rigid attitude".
II. Nurturing good relations - A relationship cannot survive on its own, but it needs the care and nurturing of two adults. One can maintain a good relationship with others by,
  • Controlling anger, frustration, jealousy and other negative thoughts.
  • Empathizing with others.
  • Going beyond selfishness and trust others.
  • Being able to admit one's own mistakes and forgive others' mistakes.
  • Show willingness to work through difficulties and disagreement.
  • Be smiling.
III. What is time management?
It is not how to manage time but, how to give priorities to the activities based on urgency and importance.
  • Important responsibilities contribute to the achievement of one's goals.
  • Urgent responsibilities require immediate attention. These activities are often tightly linked to the accomplishment of someone else's goal. Not dealing with these issues will cause immediate consequences.
IV. Time Quadrant:
Quadrant 1
Urgent and important
Eg:- Completing record work
Quadrant 2
Not Urgent and important
Eg:- Studying for exams well before
the commencement
Quadrant 3
Urgent and not important
Eg:- Phone Calls , Visitors
Quadrant 4
Not Urgent and not important
Eg:- TV, movie the commencement
The summary of each quadrant:
Quadrant I: (Quadrant of necessity)
  • Last minute preparation for scheduled activities (eg: assignments, record work.
  • Medical emergencies.
  • Person wants to shift investing time in long term success.
Quadrant II: (Quadrant of quality and personal leadership)
  • Spending time with family and friends.
  • Spending time for exercise to maintain a healthy life style.
  • One should work hard to achieve the biggest dream or long term goal.
Quadrant III: (Quadrant of deception)
  • Picking up the phone while studying.
  • Checking e-mails/ facebook updates.
  • Spending time for unnecessary meetings.
Quadrant IV: (Quadrant of waste)
  • Playing games in cell phones (timewasters)
  • Watching reruns of favourite TV shows.
V. How to apply time quadrants to an individual life?
  • Most of the people spend the life time in Quadrant I and III, but very little on Quadrant II.
  • If one wants to be effective and productive, Quadrant II is to be focussed more. It is important for prevention, planning and improvement.
  • The quadrant III activities are to be minimised.
  • In reality, one also needs a little bit of quadrant IV as part of downtime to relax.
VI. The Big Rocks of Life:
A box filling activity was demonstrated to illustrate time management.
For activity the needed things are
  • Empty box
  • Crushed big size papers
  • Crushed small size papers
  • Water
The large wide-mouthed Mason jar and set it on the table in front of the students. Then the expert produced a big size crushed papers and placed them, one at a time, into the jar. When the jar was filled to the top and no more crushed papers would fit inside, she asked, "Is this jar full?" Everyone in the class said, "Yes." Then she said, "Really?"

Then she pulled out a small crushed paper and dumped inside the jar causing pieces of small crushed papers to work themselves down into the space between the papers. Then she asked the group once more, "Is the jar full?" By this time the students began to understand. "Probably not," one of them answered. "Good!" she replied.

She reached under the table and brought out a bottle of water. She started pouring the water in the jar and it went into all of the spaces left between the big and small crushed papers. Then she looked at the students and asked," What are the 'big rocks' in your life? Your education; Your dreams; A worthy cause; Doing things that you love; Time for yourself; Your health; Your mate (or significant other). Remember to put these BIG ROCKS in first or you'll never get them in at all. If you sweat about the secondary goal (the small crushed papers and water) then you'll fill your life with little things you worry about that don't really matter, and you'll never have the time you need to spend on the big, primary goal (the big size crushed papers).

VII. What are the time spans spent by an individual at the age of 70 years?
Most of the people think that they spend more time in their life span for work. But it has been observed that in a study, in a life span of 70 years, an individual spends only 6 years towards work and the remaining years are spent for other activities as given below:
Sleep 28 Years
Eating 4 Years
Dress up 3 Years
Illness & rest 6 Years
Travelling 5 Years
Holidays 8 Years
Sundry 10 Years
Work 6 Years
IX. When to do introspection?
  • When a person is in the state of confusion.
  • Before going to sleep each and every person should introspect oneself.
X. What is Acceptance of feelings?
It means facing the reality for what it is and how to do it rather than trying to deny or avoid it.

Steps To Accept The Feelings:
1. Evaluate the situation.
2. Talk with family and friends.
3. Recognise one's own feelings.
4. Make use of once own time for thinking and relaxing.
5. Recognise the need for professional help.

XI. How will you appreciate or live each day as 100% successful life?
  • Being ready to "LET GO"
  • One can handle anything and everything in life.
  • Being "okay" with less than perfect.
  • Spread the verbal love.
  • Handle the situation carefully to satisfy oneself because 20% of the situation is not under control and 80% is under control.
  • Minimize the use of computers and cell phones.
  • All people have the same amount of time every day and some people are just better at using the time to appreciate life than others.
XII. Qualities of a successful person:
  • Confidence and focus towards the goal.
  • Dare to dream and achieve.
  • Being happy by making others happy.
  • Being courageous and responsible towards goal.
  • Mental flexibility.
  • Acceptance of feelings.
  • Nurturing good relationship.
  • Regular introspection.
  • Effective time management.